Wednesday, March 20, 2019

Are you in bondage to pleasing people?

 Does your stomach get in knots when someone is upset with you?  Do you feel a little rain cloud over your head when someone you love is unhappy?   For many years I have been a people-pleaser.  When I was younger, I would say and do things to make people happy even if I felt they were wrong.  Also, I would keep quiet when I should of spoken up.  I felt it was my personal duty to make sure everyone was pleased with me and my performance.  Exhausting!

Not only is being a people-pleaser exhausting, it is not healthy nor Godly.  I can just hear someone saying, "but are we not suppose to love and care for others?"  Of course we are.  However, being a "people-pleaser" often has nothing to do with love and everything to do with fear.   We fear losing a friendship or love relationship.  We fear of losing status or position.  We fear failure and loss of approval.  We are called to love.  Love is a free gift that wants nothing in return.  However, when our goal is to please people more than pleasing God, our goal is no longer love; we want something in return.  We long for approval and love that can only be found in Christ and a personal relationship with Him.  When we seek to please a human and neglect pleasing God, we are destined for heartbreak.  Galatians 1:10 says:  For am i now seeking the approval of man, or of God?  or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man I would not be a servant of Christ.

We must have only one Master.  When we let someone control us out of fear, we are letting them master our lives.  However,  as we surrender our lives to Christ, we have all we need: love, approval, validation, security, purpose, peace, love, joy and so forth.  Let's search our hearts today. Who or what is on the throne of our heart?  Who is our master?   If anything or anyone is there other than Christ, we are in bondage instead of the freedom Christ longs for us to have.


Thursday, March 7, 2019


Each day we put our trust in many things.  When we flip the light switch we trust the lights to come on.  When we put the key in the ignition we trust our car will start.  When we pull up to the drive-thru we trust the food we crave will be ready within minutes. There are so many things we put our trust in however, very few things are truly trustworthy.  People and things can let us down.  However when we put our trust in God we can rest assured that He is very trustworthy.

You may be in a rough patch today.  You may up against a mountain of pain and not sure what to do next.  You may have been hurt by someone you trusted very deeply.  You may be in a health crisis and not sure what the future holds.  Wherever you find yourself today, you can trust God's heart.   When you receive God's gift of salvation you become His child.  In Romans 8:28-39 God's heart is revealed.   He lets us know that for his children He causes all things to work for our good.  He also tells us that He loves us with a love that nothing can take away.   We can trust a God that loves us with a perfect love.  Even when we face heartbreaking circumstances He does not abandon us.   He doesn't hide when we hurt.  He is close to the down and broken-hearted.

I want to encourage you to put your trust in Someone that is trustworthy and true; God our Father.  He gave us Jesus and the Holy Spirit and He loves us very deeply.  While people and things are unpredictable, Hebrews 13:8 tells us that Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.