Thursday, January 24, 2019

When Addiction Hits the Homefront

Addiction is a sad thing.  Addiction keeps us in bondage and binds our soul from truly healing.   Addiction is even more heartbreaking when it affects someone we love.   There are all kinds of addictions that can plague a human heart; alcohol, pills, people pleasing, sex, food, gambling, gossip, and more.  Addiction can have a powerful effect on a person's heart and mind.  What can you do when you have an adult child caught up in an addiction?

There are books upon books addressing the subject of addiction and the adult child.  Advice ranges from "tough love" to catering to the "inner wounded child" to attending various rehabs.  However, one thing that stays the same is that the parents of addicted children hurt.  They hurt bad.   Depending upon the age of the young adult, parents may or may not have any say on whether their child gets help or not.

In my opinion, we are fighting a losing battle by begging, pleading, nagging and scheming.  It's all about control.  You have no control over your adult child. You may feel you do or try to, but we don't!  The devil wants to deceive you into thinking you can fix this soul problem; more money, more love, more effort, more intervention, more pleading.   From experience I can tell you that you can not fix an adult child.   You are only prolonging this adult from seeking for a solution themselves, which is often found in Christ.  Getting out of God's way is the hardest thing to do, but oh so necessary. Getting out of God's way can look different for each situation. It may mean to cut off money supply.  It may mean to stop pushing your child to do things that they have no desire to do. It may mean to ask them to move out.  It may mean for you to stop scheming up plans for his/her freedom when they are content in their addiction.  Whatever it may look like,  peace comes when we stop pleading and begging and begin to intercede in prayer to the One that can break every chain...Christ is the answer.

If your heart is breaking over an adult child in bondage, please know you are not alone.   Press into God and trust Him.  We can't control the decisions and choices of our children, however God can do mighty things when we get out of His way!

Praying you will trust the Lord with your son or daughter day at a time!

Now to Him Who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus. throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen!  Ephesians 3:20