Thursday, September 12, 2019
Thursday, August 1, 2019
Friday, May 24, 2019
We often hear "Bloom where you're planted" but more than blooming, we need to be growing where we are planted. Sometimes it is not the season for blooms. Your love, ministry, friendship, and heart may not always be accepted or appreciated. Sometimes people can be deceived by flattery, smoothe talk and schemes of the devil. However, when its all said and done God sees and hears and knows the motives of all men's hearts. Dont be discouraged today if it looks as if evil is winning...David felt like that many times which led him to write:
A psalm of David.
1 Don’t worry about the wicked
or envy those who do wrong.
2 For like grass, they soon fade away.
Like spring flowers, they soon wither.
3 Trust in the Lord and do good.
Then you will live safely in the land and prosper.
4 Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you your heart’s desires.
5 Commit everything you do to the Lord.
Trust him, and he will help you.
6 He will make your innocence radiate like the dawn,
and the justice of your cause will shine like the noonday sun.
7 Be still in the presence of the Lord,
and wait patiently for him to act.
Don’t worry about evil people who prosper
or fret about their wicked schemes.
8 Stop being angry!
Turn from your rage!
Do not lose your temper—
it only leads to harm.
9 For the wicked will be destroyed,
but those who trust in the Lord will possess the land.
So wherever God has you planted today...no matter how hard the circumstances...let your roots go down deep into God's Word and let His Spirit bring you life and growth. God will take care of the weeds🌻
Wednesday, March 20, 2019
Not only is being a people-pleaser exhausting, it is not healthy nor Godly. I can just hear someone saying, "but are we not suppose to love and care for others?" Of course we are. However, being a "people-pleaser" often has nothing to do with love and everything to do with fear. We fear losing a friendship or love relationship. We fear of losing status or position. We fear failure and loss of approval. We are called to love. Love is a free gift that wants nothing in return. However, when our goal is to please people more than pleasing God, our goal is no longer love; we want something in return. We long for approval and love that can only be found in Christ and a personal relationship with Him. When we seek to please a human and neglect pleasing God, we are destined for heartbreak. Galatians 1:10 says: For am i now seeking the approval of man, or of God? or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man I would not be a servant of Christ.
We must have only one Master. When we let someone control us out of fear, we are letting them master our lives. However, as we surrender our lives to Christ, we have all we need: love, approval, validation, security, purpose, peace, love, joy and so forth. Let's search our hearts today. Who or what is on the throne of our heart? Who is our master? If anything or anyone is there other than Christ, we are in bondage instead of the freedom Christ longs for us to have.
Thursday, March 7, 2019
You may be in a rough patch today. You may up against a mountain of pain and not sure what to do next. You may have been hurt by someone you trusted very deeply. You may be in a health crisis and not sure what the future holds. Wherever you find yourself today, you can trust God's heart. When you receive God's gift of salvation you become His child. In Romans 8:28-39 God's heart is revealed. He lets us know that for his children He causes all things to work for our good. He also tells us that He loves us with a love that nothing can take away. We can trust a God that loves us with a perfect love. Even when we face heartbreaking circumstances He does not abandon us. He doesn't hide when we hurt. He is close to the down and broken-hearted.
I want to encourage you to put your trust in Someone that is trustworthy and true; God our Father. He gave us Jesus and the Holy Spirit and He loves us very deeply. While people and things are unpredictable, Hebrews 13:8 tells us that Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.
Saturday, February 2, 2019
Thursday, January 24, 2019
There are books upon books addressing the subject of addiction and the adult child. Advice ranges from "tough love" to catering to the "inner wounded child" to attending various rehabs. However, one thing that stays the same is that the parents of addicted children hurt. They hurt bad. Depending upon the age of the young adult, parents may or may not have any say on whether their child gets help or not.
In my opinion, we are fighting a losing battle by begging, pleading, nagging and scheming. It's all about control. You have no control over your adult child. You may feel you do or try to, but we don't! The devil wants to deceive you into thinking you can fix this soul problem; more money, more love, more effort, more intervention, more pleading. From experience I can tell you that you can not fix an adult child. You are only prolonging this adult from seeking for a solution themselves, which is often found in Christ. Getting out of God's way is the hardest thing to do, but oh so necessary. Getting out of God's way can look different for each situation. It may mean to cut off money supply. It may mean to stop pushing your child to do things that they have no desire to do. It may mean to ask them to move out. It may mean for you to stop scheming up plans for his/her freedom when they are content in their addiction. Whatever it may look like, peace comes when we stop pleading and begging and begin to intercede in prayer to the One that can break every chain...Christ is the answer.
If your heart is breaking over an adult child in bondage, please know you are not alone. Press into God and trust Him. We can't control the decisions and choices of our children, however God can do mighty things when we get out of His way!
Praying you will trust the Lord with your son or daughter today.....one day at a time!
Now to Him Who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus. throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen! Ephesians 3:20
Saturday, January 19, 2019
You see, since I was a young girl, I wanted to be in control of my circumstances and make those I love happy and safe. I honestly felt that if I tried my best and did what it takes I could actually achieve my goal. My desire carried over into motherhood when at the age of 23 I had our first son. I wanted him to be perfectly clean, wear matching nice clothes, have educational toys that would launch him into being a genius, and much more. I read lots of books on motherhood, toddler-hood and child raising. All these things were not bad if I also understood that we could not protect him from everything forever. Of course when he was little I could watch him closely making sure he was out of harms way. I could make sure he was bathed daily, teeth brushed, fingernails clipped and hair combed. However, year by year the control I had over my son was lessening. I had overlooked a very important fact; it was not my job to protect my son forever. My true job was to point him towards Christ and to prepare him to be independent of me. What?? Yes, to be independent of me. When I was a young mom my identity was wrapped up into being needed by my kids. However, when they hit the teenage years and were naturally becoming their own person my heart experienced a new break. My belief that I could do everything right and they would avoid the mistakes and pain I endured came crashing down suddenly. You see, I was not only trying to point my kids to God but I was mistakenly trying to BE God in their life. We did teach them about God, love, respect, and hard work. However, I micromanaged out of fear and wouldn't let them make many decisions on their own. I wanted the very best for them and felt I knew what that was. So, it was no surprise that the teenage years were hard on both sides. However, it was only preparing me for the boys leaving home and moving into adulthood.
As our boys are now in their 20's and we have one grandson and one on the way, my husband and I have experienced much joy and laughter. However, to be very honest, we have also experienced some deep heartbreaks that only the Lord could mend and is still mending. There were days when the pain was so great it was hard to press on. However, God was and is so faithful. I would love to encourage others from the journey we have traveled and are traveling now. I need your help. Are there any topics you would like to learn more in regarding being parents of teens or adult children, and the effects these things have on our marriages? If so, please send me a reply. Also on the website page is a place you can ask for prayer and can share how you need encouragement.
Thank you for taking the time to share your heart and your struggles. Whatever you are walking through right now, remember that God is with you. He not only has the answers but He IS the answer. He will give you strength when you can't go any further! Please know I am praying with and for you!
Saturday, January 12, 2019
As a Christian, our identity is found in Christ and who He says we are. Therefore, Satan tries to "steal" our identity by planting lies in our mind that contradict the truth. Satan will tell us that our value is in what we do, where we work, what we wear, how we perform, or anything else that centers around self. Therefore we run hard after these things hoping to be "successful". He tempts us to believe our feelings even when they go against the Truth in God's Word. When our identity is taken by Satan, we often get depressed, give up hope and chase after false gods. We forget who we are because we believe lies instead of the Truth. On the other hand, when we receive God's truth we find freedom. As children of God our identity is found in Christ, therefore, we are loved, forgiven, chosen, a new creation, not condemned, more than a conqueror, God's workmanship, provided for, a work in progress and much more!
I want to encourage you today to spend time in God's Word finding out who you are in Christ. Get your true identity back and refuse to let Satan steal it anymore. There is power in knowing who we are in Christ and the devil knows it!