Tuesday, March 1, 2016

From My Heart: Frozen (Re-post from March 2015)

From today's post title you might think I am going to talk about the popular Disney movie that all the kids love.  However, I want to talk about another kind of frozen; being frozen with fear.  Now, I'm not talking about the kind of fear you feel when one of your kids jumps out at you from behind the door.  I am talking about an emotional fear.  I am talking about how you feel when you are in a situation or discussion in which you know something's wrong but instead of saying something or making a decision to draw a healthy boundary, you freeze.  A couple of days ago a dear friend and I met for lunch.  Among the many things we discussed, we kept coming back to this type of "frozen" fear.  For example, you are having a conversation with several family members and before you know it, the conversation lands on a family member not present.  Someone then proceeds to bash the absentee family member with all kinds of slander and you feel that awful twisting feeling in your stomach.  You know you should say something; something like, "I am sorry you feel that way, however, I don't feel the same and would rather not talk anymore about it".  But instead of drawing a boundary line, you freeze.  You have a fear that if you said anything you would be chopped down like a weed in a garden.  This is the type of "frozen" I am talking about today. Another example would be that you are out with a group of  Christian friends having a "ladies night" and someone suggests going to a place you feel you shouldn't go.  After all, all your friends are Christians and they think it's ok, so if you oppose them you will really stick out like a sore thumb.  So, instead of saying anything, you freeze.  You go ahead and sacrifice your convictions because of fear.  The fear of rejection is real and strong.  However, it is NOT bigger than God or more powerful than His Holy Spirit.  As I have said recently, I am a work in progress and certainly have not arrived, but day by day I am getting healing and getting stronger.  I am learning that it's okay if I tell the truth in love, even when it's not popular. In fact, telling the truth is loving others.  Even the Bible says in Ephesians 4 that when we become mature Christians we will speak the truth in love, growing more and more like Christ, who is the head of His body, the church. (Ephesians 4:15 NLT)
Overcoming this type of fear, the fear of rejection, is a HUGE thing; it's a God thing!  Only with His power, peace, strength, and wisdom can we break free from the worry of upsetting someone or losing their friendship. The good news is that He is more than willing, if we ask.  Through Christ we can be set free of this fear and many others.  Will you cry out to God today?  He wants you free more than you do!
One last thing!  I want to make sure you understand I am not referring to going around starting arguments or always having to state your opinion. Like the old saying goes: A bulldog can whip a skunk any old day, but is it worth it?   I am referring to the times you feel very strongly about something and know you need to speak up but you let fear overcome you and you just freeze.  I am SO glad God is patient with us and loves us through it all.  Don't be surprised as you seek freedom in this area if you don't find yourself in these situations more often.  After all, each time you speak the truth in love, even when it's hard, you will get stronger and know that you really can do ALL things through Christ who gives you the strength. (Philippians 4:13)